HHW: Day 2 – What Do I Want?

Sunday was our day to chat with a trainer from another part of the state [HHP]. She very sensibly asked what I was looking for. Ultimately, I am looking for a horse. Right now, I would settle for a short answer to that question.

The one thing the poor woman didn’t want was my life history. Unfortunately, that is exactly what I spewed out. I was wearing a Rolex hat, so I found myself going back to the purchase of Previous Horse and explaining his lack of interest in eventing. That was 23 years ago. No matter how much one consolidates, a story that spills into three decades is too long.

What she wanted to hear was:
A talented young horse that I can bring along.
or
A reliable older horse that can pack me around.

Both is not an option.

The only fully correct answer is
I dunno.
Start here.
Read to here.
Then you tell me what I’m looking for.

When you horse (cat, dog, spouse) shopped, did you go after a list of specific attributes or did you know the right one when you met?
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Gratuitous Kitten Pic
Cat shaming or an object lesson in getting the groceries put away immediately?
BTW, the chicken pieces are for Senior Cat, so no harm done.

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  1. In both cases, the answer is both.

    I knew what I wanted in a spouse and knew it was a good match when he came along.

    When we met, I told him that if I had to choose between sex and affection, I’d choose affection. He said “Why not both?”. I married him.

    Since you can’t get both qualities in the same horse, you get two horses. Trail horse first, just to get you back on a horse. See how that works. You’re not closing off your options, you’re just taking it one step at a time.

    Black or white, this or that, yes or no, can get you crazy because that’s not the way the world is. It’s full of gray and both/neither and maybes. Get a horse and then, “we’ll see”.

    One step at a time.

    P. S. Perfection is an ideal, not a goal.

  2. I’ve come to the (late) realization that at this stage of my life I need two horses: The project and the non-project. My big fear was, (since I’ve gotten somewhat lazy as I’ve aged) that once I had the non-project horse I’d just opt to ride that and let the project rust. But I don’t so. My philosophy is that by riding the finished horse I’d be inspired to work on the project. And it would give me a better option for those days/times when I just don’t have my shit in a pile to deal with the nonsense of a project. But I’ll probably never know if my philosophy is right, because I can’t quite convince myself that at 55 I really need the added work and expense of a second horse. Especially since I live in the northeast and riding season tends to last about two months at best. (Bugs, heat, humidity, hunters, snow)

  3. I agree with Joan.

    If three or four horses are too much, think about a 10-12-14 year old who would love to help out in a barn, feed horses, walk them, wipe them down, whatever…and get paid for it!

    I can think of one, many moons ago, who hung around barns…and wasn’t paid for it.

    Actually, it’s not a bad idea with even two horses. You have a lot to teach a beginner.

  4. I had a list of qualities I was looking for when I was shopping. Moses didn’t match anything on that list. He wasn’t young, big and built uphill. He was, however, a really good mover and anyway, I didn’t find him, he found me. I like to think that he never regretted his choice.

  5. Packer first. I totally agree that more than one horse is ideal, and since you have a place to keep them and a willing husband, go for more than one. But, please, please, please buy the packer first and get back in the game. Let a horse who knows the ropes remind you of how to do it. THEN you can teach a younger horse. But, I can tell you from personal experience when the blind are leading the blind, there are an awful lot of bloody noses.

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